About your relationship.
…particularly how imbalanced my life – our life – had become.
So this post is dedicated to the things (we) learned while unplugged, done in he said/she said fashion.
Time…and life…slows down while unplugged.
He said: Sitting on the couch on Friday night, after an easy dinner (breakfast for dinner!), enjoying a glass of wine, totally uninterrupted. The clocks stopped.
She said: I loved not being on a schedule of any sort on Saturday morning. No clocks or timetables to push us into go-go-GO mode was awesome. I’ve missed that.
It’s amazing the little things you notice when you’re not constantly distracted by texts, emails, and FB / twitter messages.
He said: To be the center of your wife’s universe is just an amazing feeling. I cherished that this weekend.
She said: I can’t even count the times I paused and just looked over at Scott while we were walking down Newbury Street and just smiled. The glee on his face made my heart soar. That twinkle in his eye and the way his dimples popped out (they only come out when he’s REALLY smiling big) – I’d have missed all of that if I had my phone with me.
It’s ok to put our relationship first. No apology needed.
He said: I was never worried about this. My true friends understand. My family…well, they’re stuck with me so they have to understand. And anyone that gives me grief over it? Well, they’re not worth it to me. My wife is the most important person in my life. Always has been.
She said: That was probably my biggest fear going into this weekend. Would we look selfish by shutting the rest of the world out? But now? I realize one thing. I don’t need to apologize for putting our relationship first. But I do need to apologize (and I have) to my husband for not putting him first more in the last few months. I adore him. I’m totally head-over-heels in love with him. He deserves to sense that every single day. Not just when I’m unplugged from the world. Note to self: adore your husband everyday. And show him that.
We needed this.
He said: I can’t believe how surprised Jess was when she saw the joy on my face when our unplugged weekend started on Friday night. I knew we needed this. I think I proved to Jess that going unplugged wasn’t as hard as she initially thought and I look forward to many more unplugged weekends – whether it’s a weekend away, a romantic dinner at home or a picnic in the living room. As long as it’s just me and Jess? I don’t really care what we do.
She said: We really needed this. I didn’t realize how much we needed this until that clock hit 5pm on Friday night and Scott practically jumped out of his skin with excitement. I was finally free from distraction. Focused on him. On us. It’s been far too long since we did that last.
Long story short? We highly recommend this to all of you. Please. Just try it for one weekend…or even one night. We can pretty much guarantee your eyes will be opened to a whole new world. A world that was sitting right in front of you the entire time. You were just too distracted to notice.